How to Talk to a Shy Boy That You Don’t Know Very Well

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1 Don’t Rush

People who are socially awkward during conversations may suffer with shyness. Those who are shy take longer to warm up to new situations and people, writes Indiana University Southeast professor Bernardo Carducci on “Psychology Today” online. The awkward guy in your class might just feel nervous because he doesn’t know you very well — so give him time to adjust. If you try talking a little bit more each day, you should eventually find that the conversations get easier.

2 Show an Interest

When a conversation is awkward, you can make the other person feel more comfortable by conveying a friendly attitude, asserts HelpGuide.org. Show a genuine interest in the other person by listening carefully to what she has to say, asking questions and picking up on mutual interests. If you find a topic about which she has a passion, you might find that the awkwardness slips away. Talking about a favorite subject helps most people to relax, so be prepared to chat away about her mountain bike hobby or coin collection — whatever puts her most at ease.

3 Use Humor

Humor can be helpful to break the ice when talking to someone who is awkward. Use humor by starting with a funny opening line, such as “How much does a polar bear weigh? Just enough to break the ice.” Self-deprecating humor can also be helpful for making other people feel comfortable. For example, if you are a little overweight say, “The only exercise I get these days is opening the refrigerator.” Or, try to find the humor in the situation; for example, at the gym say, “I worked out so much even my sweat is sweating.” Show the other person that you don’t take yourself too seriously, and he will relax more easily in your company.

4 Be Compassionate

Some people who are awkward are more than just shy — they may suffer with a more severe form of this trait known as social anxiety disorder. Those with the disorder have an irrational fear of being embarrassed in front of other people, to the point that it disrupts how they go about their day and talk to people, according to the Social Anxiety Institute. Be compassionate when in a situation with someone who is struggling, suggests psychologist Bruce Derman on YourTango. Don’t judge another person for being awkward, because you don’t know the internal battle that she faces.

Hey guys! So, this is a little quiz you can take that I made based on my own personal experiences. I know it can be really hard to tell whether or not a guy likes you, especially if he’s shy – but don’t give up! There are actually signs you can look for. And don’t worry if you don’t get a good score, because no two guys are the same, so what works on one might not be effective on another. Good luck!

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It says he likes me a little bit. heres the story.

I’ve kinda liked him for a few months and we’ve both gone through breakups while being good friends with each other. We have two classes together and have bonded over helping each other on tests. The first test he helped me on, he literally collected all the answers from the people around him and then gave them to me without me asking. He’s the only reason I didn’t fail. Also, he always tries getting my attention by saying random things. He’ll be talking to his friend and will say my name or something about me just so I turn around and talk to him. He also just treats me differently than he treats anyone else. He always texts me if he has a question about a class even though he has many friends in those classes. Also, on one of those classes, one day we were told to work individually on an assignment but he asked me to be his partner anyways. His best friend was sitting next to us but he chose to work with me instead. Even though the teacher then reminded us to work alone, he kept sneakily working with me. A girl who sat near us asked to join in and he seemed very hesitant to let her work with us. Basically, he’s just very very nice to me and I appreciate that he treats me differently than anyone else. The only thing is when we do text he doesn’t do very well with continuing the conversation, but I think it’s because he’s a little bit shy. But in person he talks to me a lot.

it says that he REALLY likes me but its gonna be so confusing when you hear the story.

i really like this boy since term 3. on october 7 in camp, i heard my name 3 times. when i heard my name i looked in the direction to where my crush was and what i notice is that he was looking at me while talking to his friends.

me and talia went to the boys’s cabin and needed my crush. i needed my crush for another reason but- one of his friends pop his head out and asked us what we wanted then, my crush came out from the other door and he looked at da dood jumping on him like he didnt want the dude to say anything.

well thats when i kinda noticed he likes me.
so i had full hope. then i told his friends that i like him. his friends told him anndd. i got rejected gently and simple.

after that he went back to his friends and told them what happened. but then i heard the word “why!?” my EXACT question. but i didnt give up.

one time i asked my crush about japan. but there wasnt much detail. so i went back to my seat. then. second thought, when i went back to call my crush again, his face WAS PINK. like woah. TOO OBVIOUS.

but recently, hes being mean to me like im being mean to him yet, hes trying to get close to me anonymously. like he wanted to get along after rejection. but which one is it!? i had alot of theories already but i dont know which one is TRUE. he told me to go away he doesnt like me, now he wants to get closer. big wrong man.. big wrong. ‘)

though, another person has a crush on me.he pats me on the head and gave me an ice pop. i notice my crush looks at me when i talk to him. hes jealous

probably what your thinking. but we’ll add that to my theory ok? dont worry- but if hes really jealous, lets see if my crush threatens the person who like me. or possibly, he could have been using him so that he can get info am i right?

hmmmmm. tbh, he might just be nice and want to be friends with you. kind of hard to tell with the limited details you gave. tbh I always sit next to my guy friend too and I also hang out with a lot of guys and some of them are nervous but I know they don’t like me. who knows? maybe your crush does like you 😀 I would say just try not to be too pushy/forceful and don’t make it too obvious. also, check out his pupils the next time you’re talking to him! are they big?=he likes you

haiiii it’s me again AHHAHAHA

OkAy so like i said he’s a shy guy but at first we wasn’t AT ALL shy

and then he subtly hinted that he liked me by saying “i like you. th” and i did the same saying “oh i like you” and he responded giddily but i added “oh i was talking to the paper.” HAHAHA

a sign he was expecting something

he just suddenly became soOoo shyyyy especially his friends tease him a lot

i took the quiz again because i was bored and now it says that HE REALLY LIKES ME

now that’s improvement 😍❤

btw he started chatting me so yes im happy 💖

so it says he likes me but not that much

well. here’s my story so this guy i like, i noticed that he smiles at me when we’re together talking or hanging out or he’s happy in general. Then, he walks with me and touched my hand once when it wasn’t necessary. and he asked me twice or thrice already about who i liked i mean like “so, do you like anyone?”

he’s cute, shy, quiet, not that extroverted and he’s got glasses 😍 and his really intelligent and kind and fun to chat with or be with in general.

we’re on the same sport Track and Field and that’s when i really noticed about him doing these things to me

he’s name is Ernest btw

idk maybe it’s just some cute puppy love 😍

Guys dont talk to me and I’m too shy to talk to them, help!

Q: Hi. I am a 14-year-old girl. I make friends easily, and I have a lot of friends. I am very pretty and I have a good body. My problem is that I have no self-confidence. I can’t talk to boys. I simply can’t do it. I get really nervous, and automatically think I look fat, or that something is wrong with me. No guys ever come and talk to me and I don’t get why? It’s not like I’m hideous or anything. I really don’t get it. Can you please help me become more confident with myself?

A: While you say you lack confidence it doesn’t seem that way when you can frankly make statements like “I am very pretty” or “I have a good body” and admittedly have no problems making or keeping friends. The self-doubt you mention having when you do talk to guys is less an indication of low self-esteem and more an indication of shyness. Being shy and lacking self-confidence don’t always go hand in hand. Some of the most confident and successful people in the world get tongue-tied when dealing with scenarios that they find intimidating. In your case, you are intimidated by interacting with members of the opposite sex and believe me when I tell you that you are not alone. In psychology this is known as a “social phobia” and there is only one way to beat it… you must confront your fears.

So how exactly does one go about overcoming such a fear? The first step in confronting a social phobia, or any phobia for that matter, is a process called “visualization.” During the “visualization” process you literally imagine yourself engaging in the behavior that you find so overwhelming. Go somewhere quiet and private where you can really focus and think about talking to boys. Start off simple, just imagine yourself initiating a conversation with a guy or picture a scenario where a boy approaches you. Next, imagine yourself successfully navigating the situation. That is, imagine your ideal out come, the way you would like such a situation to play out under ideal circumstances. Picture yourself being the very definition of grace and charm. Imagine that you are totally at ease dealing with the opposite sex and don’t forget to include lots of smiling and laughing in the fantasy. After all, it’s supposed to be fun to interact with boys!

The next step is called the “practice phase” and as the name implies, in this stage you literally practice what you have visualized. Practice on a safe person, a guy friend for instance, and do not psyche yourself out by thinking that it’s easy to talk to a friend but hard to talk to other guys. This is not true. If you can talk to a guy you consider nothing more than a friend then you can talk to any guy. If you don’t have a guy friend you can turn to for help start off by talking to boys that you know you have no romantic interest in. You can ease in to talking to boys you may like by first getting comfortable with talking to guys who are strangers in general.

Now you are ready for the final phase, the “confrontation” phase. This is not as hostile or scary as it may sound. In this phase you do whatever it is that you fear, in your case talk to a boy you may be interested in. One thing you should always remind yourself of when talking to a potential crush is that you don’t really know this person well enough to be losing anything by losing their interest. While a crush can feel very real it is not based on anything more than simple attraction. If you can relax about what may happen then you’ll be able to focus on the moment without fear. Talk to the boy just as you would talk to a friend. Don’t worry about putting on an act or trying to impress him. Just be yourself and you’ll do fine.

As to the second part of your concern, why guys don’t come up to you, this too has little to do with your self-confidence. People who are shy often unconsciously put up a protective barrier that others easily pick up on. In order to avoid the thing they most fear shy people often appear aloof and unapproachable to others. As ironic as it may seem the fact that you are physically attractive may only make things worse. If you appear unapproachable people won’t try to talk to you, but when you factor in your above average looks that inapproachability becomes intimidating. It’s a cliché I’m sure you’ve heard before that the prettiest girls often have the fewest dates and the explanation given for this is that boys are intimidated by the girl’s good looks. There is more than a grain of truth to this. But fear not, the solution is simple; all you have to do is take down the barrier and give off a more approachable vibe.

When you face your own social phobia you will automatically seem more approachable but there are some other things you can do to put others at ease about making the effort to talk to you first. First thing you can do is smile, smile lots and at everybody you meet. You can also open up your body language; don’t cross your arms in front of you or clasp your books over your chest, don’t keep your hands behind your back, keep your head up and make friendly eye contact with the people you want to talk to, laugh, when talking to somebody put them at ease by quickly placing your hand on their arm or by smiling as they talk to you. All of these things are cues that you enjoy talking to people and that you are open to meeting new people. Be at ease with yourself (and show it) and people will be at ease with you; it’s really that simple!

If You Understand These Struggles, You’re Too Shy

It can be difficult to understand the world of the shy person. They don’t talk much. They’re so shy! What’s going on in that quiet head of theirs? Are the plotting something? Are they depressed? Are they just being jerks? Why don’t they just speak up? If you’re a shy person, you know what’s going on. If you’re not, stop making friends at parties for one minute and read this to find out what’s up with those shy weirdos.

1. They’ve Heard The Advice, “Just Don’t Be So Shy”

Shy people are always getting the helpful advice to just not be shy. It’s not the worst advice, but it’s not the most effective. It’s kind of like telling a procrastinator to just start working already. Being shy is way less of a problem than being a procrastinator, but both result in the same type of frequent, unhelpful tips.

2. People Think They’re Rude

Just because a shy person isn’t eager to chat with someone, that doesn’t mean they don’t like that person. They’re probably just as reluctant to talk with almost every other person! So it’s nothing personal. Still, some social situations require a shy person to suck it up and be outgoing. So sometimes being shy can also be rude. It gets tricky. Better just stay inside and read.

3. People Think They Have Nothing To Say

Maybe a quiet person really doesn’t have much going on upstairs and is hoping to keep that a secret. But most shy people probably have something worthwhile to add to a conversation. They’re just a little hesitant to jump in. Or they want to but there’s someone who won’t stop talking although they’re saying nothing of any substance.

4. They Only Open Up In The Right Situation

How to Talk to a Shy Boy That You Don't Know Very Well

Where do these elusive shy people gather to speak their minds? In small groups of close friends. It takes a while for a shy person to make a friend they feel comfortable opening up to. If you don’t have the patience for cultivating that trust with a shy person, you can always try to sneak up behind one at a bar or something and try to eavesdrop.

5. They Prepare Mentally For Social Situations

Shy people know that large social gatherings are a necessary part of life, so they try to prepare themselves before going. Maybe they’ll go over potential talking points in their head, or even entire conversations with a specific person. So if you know a shy person is struggling to talk to you, know that they’re trying the best they can (and have been trying all day).

6. People Think They’re Depressed

Just because someone is quiet it doesn’t mean they’re depressed. Some people are energized by socializing. For other people, it can feel more like work. For them, not talking to anyone, even close friends, is how they want to recharge their batteries. They’re not pulling away because they’re sad. They’re doing it because it makes them happy.

As a parent or caregiver, you can gently encourage your child to become more outgoing. Keep in mind that your child isn’t being shy out of stubbornness, so she shouldn’t be punished for shy behavior. Instead, consider dealing with shyness as any other learning process, such as learning to read. The key is to be patient, gentle, and understanding with your child as you boost her confidence.

Here are 10 tips for helping your extremely shy child:

Don’t label your child as “shy.” When you label your child as “shy,” you’re doing two things. First, you’re stripping him of his many other qualities and allowing the label to define his personality. Second, you’re encouraging him to view himself as “shy.” This can cause him to act out the “shy” role without making an effort to change. Instead of labeling, try to describe your child’s behavior in ways that don’t include the word “shy.” For example, you can say, “Sam just needs some time to get used to new situations” or “He likes to observe what is happening around him before joining in.”

Teach her social skills. You can teach your child many social skills that can help her overcome shyness. You can teach her how to:

meet new people
greet others
initiate conversations
join in play
make eye contact
be a good listener

You can use puppets, action figures, or dolls to role-play different situations. Teach her how to use specific phrases, such as “Hi, my name is Maria,” and “Can I play too?”

Explain the benefits of being more outgoing. Chances are, you were once a very shy child. Or, you may still be shy in certain situations. A predisposition to shyness has been linked to genetics, although this trait can be overcome. If this is the case, give a personal example of a time when you overcame shyness. Explain why that experience was good for you. Discuss the good things that will come from acting more outgoing. These things can include making new friends, having more fun, and enjoying school more.

Help your child meet and make friends. Try to expose your child to new children and settings. But do this gradually. For example, you might visit a park where the same children play on a regular basis. Don’t force him to interact with unfamiliar children right away. Be sure to give him plenty of time to warm up. Arrange play dates for him at home, where he feels comfortable and safe. During first interactions, give your child the words he needs to talk with new friends. You can do this in many different ways, but here are a few options:

Prompt him directly, such as, “Tell Mia that you would like to help too,” or “Ask Will what game he would like to play.”
Speak to both children to encourage conversation. For example, you might say, “Ella, I know you like to paint. Anna is a great painter, too.”
Speak to the other child and then ask your child a question about the conversation. For example, you might say to the other child, “Quaid, I like your dinosaur shoes.” Then to your child, “Do you like his shoes? Don’t you like dinosaurs too? What’s your favorite dinosaur?”

Set goals and reward progress. Work with your child to set behavior goals and track his progress. Start small and gradually build. For example, one manageable goal might be to say hello to a neighbor. When your child reaches the goal, mark it on a progress chart. Offer lots of praise or a small treat as a reward.

Praise outgoing behavior. Reinforce the new social skills your child is learning. When you see her attempting to overcome shyness, praise her with lots of warmth and affection. Be careful not to do this in public if your child is likely to be embarrassed. Instead, tell her how well she has done in private.

Model outgoing behavior. Your child learns how to act in large part by watching you. So, be sure to act friendly toward others in front of your child. This might be difficult if you have struggled to overcome extreme shyness yourself. But keep in mind that your child is likely to imitate your actions. If you act shy in front of him, then he will have a more difficult time overcoming his own shyness.

Build your child’s self esteem. Children who feel good about themselves are less likely to be shy. Identify your child’s strengths and build on them. Is he creative? Is she athletic? Encouraging these skills will allow your child to see himself as a talented and capable individual. This sense of confidence can help him become braver in social situations.

Use books! Read books with your child that feature characters who have overcome extreme shyness. Use the stories as a starting point for discussions about shyness and how it affects her life. Here are some suggestions:

Buster the Very Shy Dog by Lisze Bechtold. Three stories feature Buster, a dog who tries to overcome his shyness in the midst of some bossy animals.
Maya’s Voice by Wen-Wen Cheng. Maya has just started school, but she cannot find her voice. Children who have selective mutism or just don’t enjoy talking will especially identify with Maya.
Too Shy for Show-and-Tell by Beth Bracken. Sam wants to participate in show-and-tell at school, but he is just too scared. Children who hate to be the center of attention will understand Sam’s dilemma.
Shy by Deborah Freedman. Shy hides inside the gutter of the book because he is too shy to come out. But then he hears a beautiful bird and can’t wait to meet her. The clever concept of an unseen character will captivate children, along with the beautiful watercolor illustrations.
Little Miss Shy by Roger Hargreaves. Little Miss Shy is invited to a party, but she is too scared to go. But she learns that when she overcomes her shyness, she can actually have more fun.

Communicate with teachers. If your child attends preschool or kindergarten, team up with the teachers. Create a plan together for helping your child overcome his shyness. Talk frequently about the strategies you’re using at home. Work together to set goals for your child. With a consistent approach both at home and at school, you can increase the results of your efforts.

Does your child have extreme shyness? How have you helped him or her? Add your suggestions in the Comments section below. We’d love to share them with other parents of extremely shy children!

How to Talk to a Shy Boy That You Don't Know Very Well

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How to Talk to a Shy Boy That You Don't Know Very Well

I’ve always been a believer in dating advice based on the concept that if a guy likes a girl, he’ll make sure she knows it.

In practice, however, attraction, love and relationships aren’t always so simple.

Dating apps like Tinder and Bumble have huge numbers of men and women feeling restless and especially confused on the subject of how to tell if a someone really likes you.

And in general, dating ‘norms’ and gender stereotypes don’t typically go well for men who are more shy or introverted.

When a shy guy likes you, he may not show it in obvious ways like other men do for a wide variety of reasons, fear of rejection being just one of them.

And who can blame them? If you think dating is hard for women, remember that it’s just as hard out there for men.

In the early stages of courtship, they’re often the ones expected to do most of the work. And this can be especially tough when a guy is shy.

So how can you know if a guy likes you if he’s not the type of man who’ll just come out and say it?

Here are 3 signs to watch for if you want to know how to tell if a shy guy likes you and is just too scared to admit it:

1. His body language and nonverbal communication.

Even if a guy isn’t vocal about his feelings for you, his body and nonverbal gestures will make it known.

If you’re engaged in a conversation and his whole body is facing you, that’s a great sign.

Does he lean in a little when you chat, or try to find ways to get closer to you like choosing the seat beside you in a group setting? That’s a good one, too.

Do you catch him glancing at you when he thinks you’re not looking? Tick.

Does he find subtle ways to make physical contact, like lightly brush your arm with his or giving you a gentle hug to say hello?

If a guy is doing all or most of these things, chances are good that he’s interested.

2. The amount of effort he puts out.

I often chat with male dating coaches so I can deepen my understanding of what dating is like from the “other” side. The feedback I get most often is that many women don’t seem to appreciate the effort it takes for men to approach and ‘woo’ them, especially in real life as opposed to over texts and DMs.

It takes a lot of courage for a man to approach a woman who catches his eye at the bar.

Rejection is never easy, and it takes confidence to take the leap of faith necessary to chat up a stranger despite the possibility of being turned down. When a man is shy, it’s 100 times harder.

If he’s be too shy to ask you out a on a date, he may make an effort to see you by suggesting you get together to hang out or do something casual. If a guy makes an effort to spend time with you, it’s a way he’s showing you his interest.

If he’s showing interest and you’re interested in him, too, reciprocate and let him know you’re excited to make it happen. This will encourage him to up the ante in his courtship of you from there.

3. The degree to which he reciprocates your shows of interest.

Sometimes shy guys need a little encouragement that lets them know that if they do try making a move or asking you out, they won’t be rejected.

A guy who likes you but is shy will match your level of investment when it comes to dating.

For example, if you take the initiative and suggest hanging out, he’ll likely reciprocate. Same goes with texting. If you initiate a few flirty texts and he really does like you, there’s no doubt he’ll respond.

The key to getting a shy man to actively pursue you is to let him know you’re open to it, and that he won’t be rejected when he tells or shows you how he’s feeling.

Some men grow out of their shyness in time, while some don’t — and that’s OK.

Shyness can be an endearing personality that balances out a more outgoing, extroverted partner.

A guy who’s shy won’t stay that way with you once you develop a relationship. It’s likely he just need time to warm up and feel secure.

As with everything in life and relationships, it’s important to look at people and situations within the appropriate context.

If these signs feel and sound familiar, it’s likely that your shy guy is into you.

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Iona Yeung is a dating and relationship coach who works with single women to identify their roadblocks in dating, attract the good guys, and communicate from a space of love and clarity. Visit her website for more information and to learn about her “Lucky in Love” 30-day challenge.

How to Talk to a Shy Boy That You Don't Know Very Well

Are you one of those who doesn’t like to speak to unknown people? Are you one of those who just can’t mix up with new people? Are you one of those who just like to live alone and doesn’t want to share anything with people? If you match any of these, then you are a shy person.

Most of us think that Shyness and introversion are the same things but Shyness is the fear of negative judgment, and introversion is a preference for quiet, minimally stimulating environments.

Don’t worry you are not the only one in this world who is shy; there are many negative and positive points about shy people. Shy people usually end up being some of the coolest people after you start talking to them.

Here are 6 Signs Of Shy People

Talking To Unknown People Is Nearly Impossible

How to Talk to a Shy Boy That You Don't Know Very Well

Shy people usually find it tough to talk to strange people. Shy people can’t even say ‘Hi’ to strangers. I don’t know why they find it so difficult to do that. Maybe they feel awkward to talk to unknown people. Shyness is not a disease, so don’t worry.

We Never Like To Tell Anything Unless We Are Comfortable

Like when you first meet me, our conversation is going to be awkward no matter what because I would have no idea what to talk about. It’s also worse when you’re cute. But if you wait for a little I will get comfortable talking with you. Then I will start talking so much that it will annoy you. Shy people don’t like to share anything unless they are comfortable.

Silent Lovers

How to Talk to a Shy Boy That You Don't Know Very Well

Shy people are the Silent lovers they will never tell their partner that they love them. But believe me, Shy people are the best lovers because their feelings are pure for their partner. Shy people like to be in silent love rather than proposing their partner and getting rejected.

We Don’t Hate Anyone, But We Are Just Comfortable With Own Scenario

Shy people are just comfortable with their state of mind, but it doesn’t mean that we hate anyone. We are the guys who don’t interfere in other’s matter; we just love to live alone. Love us or hate us but you can’t deny the fact that we are awesome.

We may not talk, but we see everything with uniqueness

How to Talk to a Shy Boy That You Don't Know Very Well

We notice everything, but they do not get noticed this is our personality. We don’t speak; we don’t talk, but we see everything. Trust me. We notice everything that is going around us.

We can’t mix up with people

Shy people are not open to many. Shy people are usually quiet, and they don’t really like attention. So we talk to you and share our secret with you then you must be very special. A shy person cannot mix up with new people easily, but if they do at first instant, then it means that you are very special to them.

Level: Adults, intermediate and up

Activity A

This activity is designed to get the students talking, and so should not provoke moments of tension or embarrassment. It should be done with humour.

Answer these questions.

When you are introduced to a stranger, do you normally become tense?
Do you try to be the centre of attention of groups?
Do you consider yourself a successful person, socially speaking?
Do you find it difficult to demonstrate in public some of your personal skills (such as telling jokes, dancing, singing . )?
Do you have problems when speaking in public?
Are you happy/satisfied with your own image?
Would you eat alone in a crowded restaurant?
Do you feel quite skilled at socialising
Do you accept praise gracefully and naturally?
During meetings/encounters with strangers, do you listen more than speak?
Do you show your feelings to friends you don’t know very well yet?
Do you go red when someone shouts after you in public?
Do you feel inferior when introduced to an important person?
Do you often think that your contributions to a debate can be relevant?
When you are going to be presented in public, do you sweat, shake a bit, and feel insecure .
Would you be able to imitate a famous person?

(Loosely based on a test from QUO, June 1998, Spain.)

Calculate your score.

If you said YES to questions 1, 5, 10, 12, 13 and 15, give yourself a point for each YES.
If you said NO to questions 2, 3, 4, 6, 7, 8 ,9, 11, 14 and 16, give yourself a point for each NO.
If you scored less than 6, your ability to make friends is acceptable.
Between 6 and 10, you have/have had difficulty relating to other people socially.
More than 10 points, new situations and getting to know new people is hard for you.

Discussion

Discuss any of the above which may prove interesting.

Activity B

As a related activity, you could show them the following list of social types:

Social Types

The star
The prankster
The complainer
The pedant
The shy boy (+girl)
The flatterer
The serious person
The cultured person

Get the students to define, in their own way, each of these arbitrary names. They are supposedly, the main types of characters which abound on

the planet Earth. Are there any more types of people? The extrovert? The introvert?

Here are some definitions of the above terms:

The star: Always tries to talk about himself, and hates it when the chat moves into unknown territory.
The prankster: Great fun, but a bit tiring after a while, especially if the conversation is serious.
The complainer: Never happy, always giving out.
The pedant: Pretending to know more, and shows it off. In the end, people avoid rather than admire him.
The shy boy: He can make those who don’t know him feel uncomfortable, and trigger sympathy in others. A complicated social animal.
The flatterer: Manipulates people. At first, we like it, but in the end .
The serious person: No visible sense of humour. Makes others uncomfortable, seems to set the pace sometimes. However, he doesn’t have to be boring, and can make a good friend. Trustworthy.
The cultured/learned person: Usually, a highly valued person, because we like to be with people who know more than us. Once he doesn’t show it off!

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